I can’t believe it’s January 31st already! This month went by so quickly, maybe because we’re in the middle of a lot of big projects at work. Or maybe I’m just getting old, and time really does speed up?
I can’t say that after a month of focusing on family meals, we’ve reached any type of expert-status in the way we cook and eat at our house. It’s still a process. B. cried tonight while I was cooking, because S. wouldn’t share his Legos and play dough. The salmon and risotto were both too spicy. The kids ate chicken fingers dipped in ketchup instead. It was a 2-star night.
But, we sat together. We talked and we laughed. We’ve gotten into the habit, and it’s good.
The biggest thing that I learned this month was that my word isn’t just balance – it’s also collaboration. When I was originally thinking about balance, I was ultimately focused on my self – what I had to do, to make our life work better.
When meal prep wasn’t going well, it was usually because I hadn’t stopped and asked for help. Everyone in this house is completely willing and able to help, but sometimes I almost unconsciously pushed help away. Like I was trying to prove that I could be some type of Wonder Woman. But I can’t be -and I shouldn’t be – because ultimately everyone suffers from my inability to collaborate. I think I’ve gotten better at it this month, and now it’s becoming a habit. Fortunately, I have the chance to keep practicing, every day.
Collaboration reminds me that I’m not in this alone – that balance can keep expanding out, influencing a wider circle- me and my husband as a team, our kids, our extended family, our friends, our colleagues, our neighbors.
Although we’re moving to a new project tomorrow, I have a feeling that collaboration will continue to be a theme that we explore.
If you’ve been focusing on family meals this month, what have you discovered about your self? What have you changed? What has stayed the same?